WE GOTTA GET OUT OF THIS PLACE

Dear ladies; Think like a man, end up without one………………..
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       Almost everywhere I look it’s the same thing, whether it’s the movies that keep depicting how women ought to act like men to survive on earth or the books or magazines teaching us to be men the idea is same.
       I know for a long time we ladies have been thought to act like men so no man would ride on you. Well its about time we got out of that place, that idea that you had to be a man to be treated right by a man. No man intends to end up with as fellow man for crying out loud. I’m a woman and not a man, God didn’t make any mistake by making me a woman, if he wanted me to think like a man he would have made me a man in the first place, my God isn’t the maker of chinko products, he doesn’t make a Nokia phone with a Tecno battery (lol) he makes and places the right and original things in you, therefore he won’t create you as a woman and put the mind of a man in you, he simply gives you the strength to be a woman, so the idea of trying to think like a man should not even be embraced,  the truth is there is no such thing as a life better than the one God has given me, if he has made me a woman all I need do is make the best out my feminity. Men see things way differently from women and that is the reason we need each other because our different thoughts makes for a better understanding of a particular issue, now if we both see one thing the same way what is the point of our difference in gender, no man wants to be married to another man if he wanted to marry a man homosexuality is finding some popularity these days he’ll simply go for that, if a man would marry a woman it’s because he needs a woman.
       I consider it futile to spend your time learning how to think like a man when you already have the mind of a woman. Why not spend time growing your feminine mind making the best of what is already yours and not coveting what isn’t and shouldn’t be yours? We gotta get out of that mindset that compels us to try thinking like men. I meant being female is not synonymous to being weak.
       While thinking like a man is annoying the frustrating one is trying to act like them, I can’t work like a man, I’m no man, until the day men start to bleed for five days, go through PMS, have cramps, deal with every female disorder e.t.c,  me I would not be caught acting like a man, our physical make up is even different so why would I stress myself and act like him when I can simply embrace my feminity, sit with a cup of strawberry tea, smile and say “well-done” to the man while he’s being the man. According to my friend the more feminine you are the more you bring out the gentle man in any man. Ladies it’s time we got out of that place of thinking like men and come into the place where we act like ladies think like ladies and gladly be ladies.
Love
Busayo

UNDERSTANDING KAIROS

 

Karios is the Hebrew word for appointed time, when we say kairos we are referring to the appointed time. All of life answers to times and seasons, a lot of things go wrong in our lives because they either happened before the appointed time or afterwards. In fact a lot of things that are considered sinful aren’t even sinful in themselves only the timing is the problem.

Read through the story of Jesus resurrection you’ll realize he didn’t stir, didn’t move, and didn’t resurrect on the first day, didn’t move his toe or something on the second day, he came back on the third day. Know why he came on the third day? Because that was his appointed time.  I read job 14:14 and I particularly love the message bible translation of the message it goes ;

“If we humans die, will we live again? That's my question.

All through these difficult days I keep hoping,

waiting for the final change — for resurrection!”

 

the change we’re waiting for is the resurrection, but we’ve got to understand that we can’t resurrect until our third day, our third day in this case isn’t the physical three days, it’s our kairos time, our set time for beautification, I also love the God’s word translation of Job 14:14;

    

”If a person dies, will he go on living?

I will wait for my relief to come

as long as my hard labor continues”

 

isn’t that just hopeful, there is hope that there is an end to all your pain, all your hurts and all that has broken and bent you, all you need do is understand Kairos, understand that for everything in life there is time and season, there is the time for your “UGLIFICATION” and there is the time for your BEAUTIFICATION however all of these will happen in their kairos time and not even a day before. All you need do is believe and wait until your change comes.

 

Love always

Busayo Kehinde

 

 

THE WAITING

What exactly is the waiting? The waiting basically refers to the period between your hurt and your kairos. The waiting is the time between the day you were hurt and the day of your glory. The waiting is the time between the day Jesus died and the day he resurrected, the waiting is the day after the cross and the day before the resurrection.

    It doesn’t matter what has happened that left you broken and hurting, during the waiting, it may look like the change you desire is nowhere near coming, during the waiting you’ll hurt, you’ll cry, you’ll feel pain and you’ll wonder is God is true, if all his promises are indeed genuine, if he really cares, during the waiting you’ll see things that would leave you wondering, but in all of these God is still there, while you can decide to struggle and wait on your own, the problem with this is that you can never wait on your own, there’ll be too many things to test your patience during the waiting, you can decide to hold on to God and let him hold you, encourage you, embrace you in his love. I’m listening to you’ll never walk alone now, it’s a reminder that God is with us, he’ll be with us to make the wait easier, sometimes the wait is gentle sometimes the cold wind would blow, but no matter how it is, no matter what kind of wait you can be sure of this one thing, you’ll never walk alone, you’ll never wait alone. Let Jesus help and wait with you.

Love always

Busayo Kehinde

STOP HARASSING ME WITH SCRIPTURES

       Hi guys, it’s the season of “love” and I was really going to do something on love, however I’m one under instruction so I couldn’t just get up and write whatever I feel as I please, but I’ll leave y’all with this; there is No such thing as a better life, love your own life, no other life is better or more deserving of love than yours. I don’t know anything more devastating than not loving yourself. You can spend the whole day with Bae and still feel unloved, it not something Bae didn’t do, its you, until you can love yourself no one can successfully love you, you’ll just frustrate their efforts. Once you can love yourself with or without a date tomorrow, you’ll do just fine. Also as you celebrate remember the man upstairs the BIG G, the one whose heart is turned over with love for you, our ultimate love, and embrace his love through the day.
               Well today I’d be writing on scriptures and its abuse. A few people would be able to relate with me on this and that is fine, scriptures are there to help, encourage and heal. Not to discourage, kill and not help. However the unkind application of scriptures in these times has killed many. I couldn’t blame those who wouldn’t turn their lives to God because they see Christianity as bondage, some of us are quick to say “it’s their business” well it’s not it ours too. Yeah I know some people talk without any evidence, but some have real proof that its bondage, people abuse people with scriptures. For instance I don’t pray to ever be in a situation where divorce has to be my only option but if someone is in such a situation you don’t humiliate them by saying “God hates divorce” yes he does but he doesn’t hate you because you’ve had a divorce, he hates what divorce does to people, he hates the trauma, but you? He loves you very much. I’m not a supporter of the whole idea of divorce but I’m tired of people committing suicide because they cannot divorce and they cannot put up with the marriage, nothing would separate us from Gods love Divorce or no divorce......... one that I was particularly harassed with when I spoke about my struggle with sin was “shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?” maybe you don’t understand I’m not enjoying the sin I’m confessing because I need help I feel like I have fallen too far for grace I need mercy, I need help, nobody remembered that my sin didn’t separate me from God, I spent a greater part knowing I had fallen too far and I had sinned long  enough for grace so I was totally doomed for hell and I stopped fighting sin, I  just let it rule. That is what happens when we continually abuse people with scriptures, times when I wanted to commit suicide because there was no hope for me I just figured I will still go to hell in the end so why should I quicken the journey, Glory to God I am no longer abused by scriptures but what about the others who are being molested by scriptures, who are hurting.
         Today as Christians show Jesus and decide within you to stop harassing people with scripture, love them with it instead, encourage them with the word it’s what we are called to do.
Love
Busayo

HARDER???? STRONGER?????

           Hey y’all I love to write, I doubt there is anything else that gives me that much joy, however when I write I write sometimes on things I’ve heard about, sometimes on things I imagine, other times on things I read about, and mostly on thing I have experienced. Of all the things I write on of all the things that inspire my writing the one I love the most is when I write out of experience. When I write out of my experience I feel its way easier and the purpose of this blog is achieved; “if God could bring her through, he’ll bring me too”. I’ve learnt that for the most part my experiences aren’t just for me, they also include everyone who drops by. This piece is one of such experience inspired posts…..enjoy
     Over the past year I’ve written so many things in relation to how my health witnessed a terrible downward shift. When I started to have pain it was scary, I’d cry at the slightest sign of pain, but gradually I stopped crying if there was pain I developed a new method of pain killer abuse that works faster than the medically approved method so I stuck with it, now a lot of people would think that pain grows after a while, in reality it never really happens at least not on this side of heaven, we just get used to it and for some of us it makes us stronger and others makes us harder. I got used to being in pain at some point that even when pain was at its peak I wouldn’t  shed a tear, people would be like “Busayo you’re so strong” and I was unmoved, gradually nothing fazed me again. I thought that was strength but it wasn’t, strong people have compassion, I had no iota of that it was a struggle to show I even cared about and for anyone, I was so hard and direct I could just spill out anything I wanted to without caring about other people’s feelings; that’s not strength that’s just being callous, strong people have empathy but I didn’t if anything else I’d say I was simply straight up mean. Nobody was worth my time, my care, my trust, my love or anything else for that matter. Now aside my health life had hurt me on so many other sides and I had closed up every wound and pretended it never happened and that was why I was hard. Know this “strong people are the ones who have healed; hard people are the ones who have covered”.
        I however came to realize how hard I was, until I could so casually throw around the word I love you without even a hint of care for the person, but that was just a little. Worse was when my friend had a cold and I wasn’t concerned I’d had worse colds and so I was wondering why she was all acting dying, I offered her drugs and she goes “I don’t like drugs” to say the least I was irritated, for me what is so hard about taking drugs I take drugs every day so when someone says they can’t I’m like “okay! Then die”.
      Strength is what Jesus has that even after the cross he still has compassion for our little pains enough to be with us through it. Strength is empathy, love, care, patience, understanding, joy, peace and strength. In the words of Louisa May  
“Painful as it may be a significant emotional event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that servers us and those around us- more effectively. Look for the learning.”
Strength is in the learning. I have no idea what pain some of you have had to endure to be here today, but I know you’re here you have the strength to be strong, but you need to heal first only then can you really get strength, let go let God, be healed and be strong. Evaluate your life are you really strong or are you just hard enough to go through each day. Hard thing get broken in the end and you never want to know what that even feels like.
Love always
Busayo.
Ps: I'm always a message away busayokehinde81@gmail.com and God is always a prayer away.

I’M A CHRISTIAN BUT I STRUGGLE WITH SIN

 As I write this piece I ask myself Mish, are you sure you want to do this? I mean people may misunderstand you, well if you do misunderstand this I’m very sorry. I do not expect everyone who reads this either to clap or drop a comment saying “nice piece” however, for those who I do this I know you’ll be blessed.
From stealing, to lying, to lust, to sexual immorality, to cheating, to insincerity, to pride, whatever  it may be, sin is sin and so long as it doesn’t honor God its sinful. Well one would expect hat as a Christian you shouldn’t struggle with sin. Don’t get me wrong I’m not here to put an “okay” on, but struggling with sin doesn’t make you a bad Christian, to struggle with something means to fight it right? So if you are struggling with sin it means you are not okay with sin and you want to get rid of sin, when you fall and its most expected that you’ll fall don’t get so beat down, we all struggle with something for the most part, don’t allow anybody magnify your struggle, some of us struggle with pride we struggle with letting Gods voice be heard above ours, we just don’t tell and because you struggle with sexual immorality or drug addiction people tell you you’re not Christian enough and that’s why you struggle, NO! So long as you are not okay, not content in the sin you are still a Christian, don’t beat yourself because you fall we all are God’s work in progress. We fall we rise and continue our journey, see the apostle Paul he said three times he asked God to take away his weakness but God kept on saying my strength is sufficient, there are some of us who even need our struggles to keep us focused on God, if some were without any struggle we would glory in ourselves and no that’s not Gods intention for his children he want us to glory in the father. Don’t allow anyone lie to you, you’re not too saved to struggle with sin, no one gets it right all at once, it’s a gradual process and with Gods strength being sufficient you’ll rise above it. You’re not too saved to struggle with sin you are too saved to remain in sin and be comfortable there.
Love
Busayo

I’M A CHRISTIAN BUT I STILL HAVE FEARS

Hi everyone thank you for every minute you spend on this blog checking through what this silly little girl has to say, and smiling and dropping comments and encouraging this little thing I do called sharing, I couldn’t thank you all enough but God who sees my heart know how blessed when I see people who read my write up get blessed, he knows how important your mail and comments are to me, I literally smile my way through the day knowing I’m using the kings blessing to be a blessing. In the past week I’ve been really busy so if I didn’t respond to possibly a mail or even a comment, I’m really sorry school was tearing me apart I almost lost my mind but I bless God the semester is behind me, I had to sneak up here in between stress and just put up anything most time because y”all needed to feed and I wasn’t going to starve you. God bless for you all for sticking around. Finally I’ll be home for the next month so please feel free to drop mails with personal questions, comments e.t.c they all mean a lot to me. My email is always busayokehinde81@gmail.com .
    I’ve been writing on being a Christian and battling stuff, let me state this at this point; being a Christian doesn’t make you any less a human, doesn’t make you super human, it only brings God into your humanity, to make you living a lot easier. It doesn’t change your human nature. We unfortunately live in an extreme society where people don’t really see things they way they are, the world is full of grey but most of us simply see white and black and that is the problem.  I mean people say why are you afraid aren’t you a Christian? Honestly Christian doesn’t mean you won’t have fears, fear is an emotion built in us as humans just as love is, it’s why Christians and non Christian want to be loved alike, its inbuilt in our bodies and so long as you are in this body you are bound to have fear and doubt, why else would the bible say “fear not” so many times, it’s because we are in the body where fear exists, plus in the end you’ll always have fear just as a Christian you’ll have to spend all your fear on Jesus; hence the phrase “I fear God” . so all no one look down on you or question your faith because you still have fears about life, the future and all, I mean life is so uncertainty so fear is bound to come, difference is as a Christian your fear is on God. You may have fears, don’t let that make you negate your Christianity just begin to channel all your fear toward God. I still have fears once in a while but believe me I’m still Christian.
Love
Busayo

I’M A CHRISTIAN BUT I STILL HURT

Heyy I promised to write more on I’m a Christian but…… however I haven’t had the time to sit with that well until today. I hope you’re blessed and please feel free to write anything on this piece and mail it to me, who knows your openness about your struggle could rescue another. busayokehinde81@gmail.com is my mail address.
I have heard of people who had some really hurtful experiences in their past, maybe you lost a parent, someone walked out on you, a history of abuse, or molestation and now years after you still feel hurt sometimes, and maybe you’ve been told that you’ve not forgiven and that’s why you still hurt. I’m sorry if this isn’t what you expect but the hurt doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven or you’re still bitter, if we’ll be honest we forgive the problem isn’t unforgivness. You could have totally forgiven the issue is we’re human and we don’t ever really forget, it’s in your memory and all you need is something familiar, maybe a smell, a picture, a name, a trip and there again where the pain happened, you’re not angry you’re just hurt and you wish it never happened. I wish people would stop saying to people get over it when they are hurt by things that have gone on in the past, or dive into a long sermon about how you should not be hurt because you are a Christian, sometimes I see people hurt themselves in the name of trying to be Christians, they’ll be hurting but wouldn’t get help and they’ll be forcing a plastic smile on their face and be suffering and hurting in silence and in the end when the hurt gets too much they end up committing suicide. I’m Christian and I still hurt over the past doesn’t make me any less a Christian it only leaves me human, Christianity isn’t synonymous to no hurt, you would be hurt because you are human but the hurt wouldn’t get the better of you and that’s what matters, so don’t even allow anyone tell you you’re unforgiving because you still hurt once in a while its only normal to feel that way especially when something was lost or taken away from you. So my light may be broken (I still hurt) but I still work (I’m still a Christian).
Love
Busayo K

GODS WAYS

‘’I stood there trying to get him to see me, trying to buy a minute of his time,
Just to get him to listen to me, but he had too many people around him to even have a minute for me
So I let him go. I tried to chat him up but again I met with a brick wall so I decided to stop trying”
                                                                                                                                                            -B
I had a little problem and as always I prayed about it but I wanted to talk it over with the daddy but no he didn’t even have my time, he had become my confidant I used to be really scared but he was always there to encourage me, pray for me and all, but this time around he wasn’t just there, I told him he didn’t pray for me and I had a little struggle and he replied with a very silly “awwwww” and no prayer after, well I can’t blame him tho but I was hurt. He was with me the other day and I walked him down to the car park mainly because I wanted to talk but I didn’t even get up to a minute it was like I was invincible, half way through the walk I just gave up and let him be as I left him, I stopped and turned to another friend who knew next to nothing about me and we started talking and like that I told him what was hurting me and how I felt, not only did he pray with me he talked too and listened to my whining and even promised to keep up with me and true to his word he’s done just that.
I’m reminded of scriptures that says Gods ways are not my ways, really  I was there expecting one person to save me while he was busy preparing another person for me, I may not perfectly understand his ways but they are certainly way better than anything I could ever plan myself. Furthermore what I learnt from my experience is to never chase anyone except God, because while I spent my time chasing after the other one I didn’t have time to stop and see the other one God had for me. 
Love
Busayo