Hello blogville, it’s been so long I’ve been here a lot has been going on with me but that really isn’t an excuse tho, I’ve been away because I was sad, now the issue wasn’t that I was sad it’s that when you’re sad it rubs off on everything you do if you are not careful and that was what happened with me, I did write a few things but they all had a tinge of sadness and I couldn’t do that to you, when I started blogging I could come up and say anything I felt and be fine, but sometime along the line I let God be the head of this blog and it’s kind of a ministry now although I share my personal experiences I use them to teach and not to depress people further so much as I wanted to come here and be pitiful I had to do otherwise.
Now to what I have for today, yesterday was father’s day and I felt so much love for every father figure in my life and I couldn’t help it, but then I went online twitter and I saw some loving and some totally hating their fathers and I hurt for them but I also hurt for these fathers, some were mad because their fathers were absent and this I have to say, honestly I don’t exactly know how you feel but then when we were younger dad used to stay in Abuja while myself and my mom and sister stayed at Lagos and it wasn’t any fun at all we saw so little of him, now when I think of it he didn’t move to Abuja because he hated us or wanted to be away from us, he did so because it was the best he felt he could do at the time although sometimes I think we could have found other ways to stay together aside his leaving for Abuja but anyway it’s all good now. Why am I sharing this? It’s sad that some men couldn’t take or face their responsibilities and choose to run off but then I believe it looked like the best thing they could do at that moment. So yes they are wrong but we should forgive them, I bet they could never have been happy running off……… forgiveness is the only gift you can give to them.
Furthermore some people are angry about the way they were raised and stuff their fathers gave or didn’t give them and that’s fine, I used to feel that way too before until I spoke with my dad once and when he was done I realize parents honestly are lovers, so for the most part of my growing years I was always forced to attend church, missing church wasn’t an option and I always wondered why, but when I said it to dad he was hurt and explained to me that when he was a child his dad was a smoker and an unbeliever and somehow it had an effect on everyone of his children but when dad got older and got know Christ he honestly started to wish he’d known Christ early and so all he was doing was trying to give us that which he never got from his father. Listening to him say that hurt me because that exactly is what we all want to do, we want to be better parents than ours innit?... sometimes when our parents seemingly push us it’s all in a bid to give us the life they wished they’d had, the life the would have loved to have but couldn’t, its why some parents be pushing you to get a masters degree, to chase a PhD when all you want to do is become a make-up artist lol, its why they be pushing you to study law, engineering or medicine when you want to study Yoruba education lol, it’s not hate it’s out of love and while this love may not sit well with you, it’s pure love. Can’t you see someone wants to give you all they never had? For this reason you should love them, you should forgive them, maybe the love wasn’t done right it was done with the purest of intentions. For this such fathers deserve love.
Those who were raped by fathers and step fathers, I can’t say I even understand but this I have done; I’ve sent prayer to heaven for you all, that God would comfort you and heal the hurt and help you forgive and wrap his love around you. Amen
Love always
Busayo kehinde
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