READY OR NOT

I recently met this twenty one years old lady, really pretty, sweet, God loving and if you’ll ask me very mature, and we got talking and she told me she’d never been in a relationship and I wondered why and she helped me understand that it wasn’t about the age or anything but the concept of being in a relationship required maturity and more than just age. Age is just a number and should never be your basis for entering a relationship. Oh I remember in primary school how we’d say we’d be married by the time we’re twenty one and by twenty two we’ll start having, I guess we didn’t realize that twenty one wasn’t really far away. But it was a dream of an immature mind why don’t we drop it now we’re older, your tall fair rich and handsome list why don’t you drop it and look out for qualities other than the whole childish list, not necessarily settling for less but growing to the point of letting Jesus choose for you.

   When I ask ready or not I mean are you emotionally ready? Relationship is not for people who do not have control over their emotions, its not for boys and girls its for ladies and gentlemen, its not for people whose emotions are a mess who don’t even understand themselves I mean you don’t even understand you and you’re trying to bring someone else into your life seriously? Don’t you think that’s a little complicated. We need to build ourselves emotionally; you need to learn how to express how you really feel.

  Are you financially ready? Wait guys before you punch me in the face, we need to understand that embracing someone else would cost you something, its not about the preson being demanding its just supposed to, for instance you both cant have lunch and she’ll pay her own bills except if she offers to, and even if she offers to insist. You might not know but a few things you’d do would determine how far the relationship would go no one can cope with a guy who is stingy.

Are you spiritually ready? Are you strong enough spiritually to embrace someone else, can you even ray for yourself before you decide to add someone else to your life? Think about all of thiese before you jump into a relationship.

Xoxo Busayo