LEARN TO SAY STOP

A story is told of a woman who went to a diner after a long day, the waitress serving her coffee said to her to say stop when she's had enough coffee in her cup, she sat and watched as the waitress filled the cup with coffee and continued to pour it even as the cup was obviously filled up, it was then she remembered to say "WHEN". She expected that the waitress could see and know when the cup was filled up.
It’s how we humans are, humans would keep dumping things on you until you're bold enough to say “WHEN", to say stop when you've had enough, we can sit around and expect people to see when they have burdened us with too much people would know that they are putting much on you but your silence gives them a go ahead to continue.
Particularly females we have this instinct in us that just wants to make sure everyone feels good and is comfortable, but a lot of us are extreme with this, we get so busy pouring ourselves out to cater for the need of others, that we sometimes forget to care for ourselves, we are afraid to stop, we let kids, our husbands, our boyfriends, our extended family, our friends, to dump all of their problems and we overfull, we’re spent but we won’t stay stop, we just keep letting them pour it all on us, and we’re angry, we’re wondering if they can’t see you’ve had enough? The fact is people won’t take it that you’ve had enough until you say so. I did something titled “you come first” last year and a lot of people who read that thought I was just being selfish. But isn’t it sad when you’re angry and worn out and still doing things for people because work or good deed done in anger is as good as work not done. Its about time for each and every one of us to learn to stay stop, I need a break and really take a break to refresh when you’ve had enough. Pamper yourself, a day at the spa, swimming, just anything to cool off and relax. No matter how strong you seem you deserve a little rest from everyday’s stress and workload.
Love Meshel