I WAS BORN THIS WAY

I remember when i was in primary 2, there were several boys in my class but the one who stood out among them was a boy named Nnamdi, i was one of the smallest boys in my class and really he was the best looking,  but he didn’t stand out for any of these reasons, he stood out because he was always with girls, he wasn’t just always with girls he acted like a girl, while the boys in class went out to play football during break Nnamdi would rather stay with the girls and play “ten-ten”, he was the only boy who would cry when boys were being canned at school, he walked like a girl, to most of us he was a girl like any one of us and there was nothing wrong in that, but then we got into secondary school  and realised that it wasn’t normal for a boy to be like Nnamdi, in school people refered to him with words like “fag” “gay” “homo” and the likes, i hurt for Nnamdi, he was bullied and mistreated by every male, but i knew he had a good heart and he really was trying to be like other males, but he just seemed to fail. Nnamdi has decided to take it that he was born this way and live with it but recently he got into trouble at school and was expelled for the singular reason of being gay.
   Putting this story together was a little uncomfortable for me i know I’m treading a dangerous path writing about such a a controversial issue, the aim of this particular piece is not to criticize or condemn the homosexuals, its scarcely even about homosexuality. It’s a random piece I only decide to put that story together because that’s where the phrase I’m trying to address is often used. 
    We sin we do the wrong and we just simply say to ourselves “I was born this way” and that phrase is basically what I’m trying to address by this piece. When we talk about how we were born, fact is we all are born with a natural bend towards sin; scripture says “in iniquity did my mother conceive me” it means before we were born sin was already implanted in us, we have sin in us by default, and that is the reason we’ve got Jesus, if sin was something we had to learn when we were older then we wouldn’t need Jesus’ blood really cause we would need to chose to sin, so we all are born bent towards sin. But being born in a way doesn’t mean you have to live exactly that way. Take for instance sickle cell patients or even those born with asthma if they decide to say they were born that way and do nothing to help and manage and improve their condition what sense would that make? So is it with sin we born that way but like the sickle cell who have got to take routine drugs and shots so do we. We need routine shots of God’s word; we need daily doses of Jesus. We need to struggle even when it doesn’t seem to make any sense, we’re not suppose to give up fighting sin and say “I was born this way” I don’t care what sin you struggle with, pride, hate, lying, stealing, whatever it is. See God loves every one of us whatever our struggle is. He knows life is is hard for us and that’s why we have his promise that he’ll always be with us and nothing can separate us from his love Not even our sin. We might struggle with whatever it is all our lives but the point is we have to keep fighting like we battle for our lives, funny thing is scripture tells the end from the beginning and it says God has overcome and we are like God in this world, so it means you have overcome too, basically it means no matter how long we have to battle we wouldn’t have to battle forever, know why? Jesus has won the victory over sin on the cross, so I’m victorious no matter what I look like today!
  Finally someone once said “we had no control over how we were born, we can’t choose how we were born, but we can choose how we would live” so yeah I was born THAT way, but I choose to live HIS way!
Lots of love
BUSAYO