PAIN

Pain would come at some point in our lives, from the death of a friend the one you’d planned your future with, to the loss of a family member, to a devastating medical report, hurt is inevitable it will come and truth is we cannot even successfully guard ourselves from hurt and pain, however while pain cannot be avoided its highly necessary we allow ourselves to heal and not just heal but heal rightly, sometime I read about Jake, while he was much younger he used to play football onetime he fell and his some bones in his legs were broken but because he didn’t want to give up that football session he decided not to let anyone know and continued to manage the leg however soon it “healed up” sometime later he started having problems with the leg and was taken to the hospital the scan showed that the bones that broke earlier had healed but not in the right position, hence the only way out was to break the bones and re-arrange it again. As I read this story I knew one day I’ld have to do a write up on it, how many of us have gone through painful situations and allowed our heart to heal rightly, how many of us have really been healed from the pain we suffered as a result of the death of those we loved, heartbreak, abuse and molestation, name it…… a number of us think we have healed because we don’t think about it daily, the truth is we could cover pain but whatever is covered will have to be opened one day, pain comes to toughen us up and not harden us.

     When we fail to allow ourselves heal naturally the likelihood of addiction is there as we’ll need things to keep our minds away from our pains hence drug and substance addiction, pornography addiction, even addiction to food, a whole lot of others develop terrible tempers as a result of pain others won’t understand, we wonder how when some people we used to know to be darling and sweet suddenly become so hard and wild after the death of a loved one or something else it’s just a mechanism of trying to heal on our own.

   You are probably already wondering why we wont allow ourselves heal after we are hurt? The truth is healing involves grieving it involves crying and letting it all out and we do not want to grieve for long we just want to skip the grieving part and arrive at the “I’m good, I’m fine, its all God’s will part’’ the truth is there is protocol there is a steady progression of event we cant skip, and No I do not mean or expect that you’ll turn yourself into a cry baby, all I mean is ther are times all you want to do is sit and cry about what or who was lost at such time s just let the tears flow you don’t always have to be in control of it all, and gradually slowly, steadily we’ll see less need to grieve and soon we’ll be out of our grieve and our heart would still be normal, when we do not grieve and the feeling comes we’ll need something to do to prevent our selves from crying hence addiction or transfer of aggression to anyone or thing near us.

   Furthermore apart from grieving sometimes we need to talk with someone who you could trust about your fears and insecurities as regards what has happened, a lot of times talking would actually help and once in a while we’ll discover we’re not even alone there could be others like you and that would encourage us also.

     Finally and most importantly we need to pray, tell all your hurts, pains and fears to the man on top the Big G, he hears and cares so much about you he has all the answers you need, he understands all you are going through and most of all his word says he is the Great Healer, talking to him would feel so good plus being the Great Healer, he Heal you totally, completely and rightly.

Xoxo Busayo