DEAR BOAZ For a lot of single people, singleness results in frustrations, so as a male figure you are either a partner material or an enemy, this is actually not on purpose most times but its just how it happens, we are either partners(about to get married) or enemies who don't relate. we are extreme, we either love them or hate them we don't have a safe ground for just friendship,ACTUALLY THAT SAFE GROUND IS WHAT WE NEED. One thing i've observed is in such atmosphere people can be real, for instance someone you hate who wants you to like them, would likley pretend just to get you to like them, while the one you love outrightly could just pretend to impress, however in the ordinary friendship relations the need to impress is less. pretence would thrive in the white or black relationship while in friendship pretence would be unnecessary thus relationships built from friendship are usually more true, so while you may be single you need to avoid extremity and stay on the confortable middle ground of plain platonic friendship. So today i urge singles to stop searching for either a husband or one more male to hate, but begin to establish and cultivate healthy friendship, and who knows your mr.Boaz might just be one of the members of your circle of friends. Have a great week. Love Busayo.