YOU COME FIRST

Have you ever sat in a saloon and looked at the hair of your stylist and wondered? I mean they could be so skilled at what they do and you look at their hair and it’s a sorry eyesore, ever been in that position? Several times I wonder. I have often wondered why women get married and somehow they are always tired, they begin to see everything as work or duty, they pour out so much for others and severally forget to feed themselves, they never stop to say it’s okay I need to refuel myself, I was reading Bishop TD Jake’s The Lady, Her Lover and Her Lord, he also mentioned women as giving too much to the point we sometimes loose ourselves and we wear out quickly and then everything becomes like a job to us, we end up angry frustrated, and the purpose ends up being defeated anyway, because doings things grudgingly is as good as not getting the done at all.

Personally I think If you’re spending your days glamming people up, then you owe it to yourself to be glammed up.

                  

For a while I didn’t understand the reason behind attending to yourself first before helping kids or anyone. I just got to realize it isn’t selfish at all. Most times we jump to help others while we sink and die or get out of breath, needing the oxygen but trying to give someone else first. You need to give yourself enough air, before you reach out, or you will die when you try to help someone else out and neither would the person survive in most cases.

There are pastors that preach messages that restore broken homes, but their homes are in such messed up situations you’re shocked when you hear of their divorce. Same thing happens with marriage counselors etc.

Don’t be so poured out that you loose yourself. While you teach people the truth, do you still feed yourself on the truth? While you advice me on how to take the lipstick stains off their teeth, have you checked yours and brushed real good?

If you’re pouring out yourself, make sure to get fueled as well. Don’t serve gourmet meals to people, while you feast on a sandwich, because you’re too tired to whip up a meal.  It’s such a shame to have horrible hair while you style others and make their hair healthy because you’re so poured out to your job you have no time to treat yourself.

I’m not on a selfishness campaign here, I’m talking self love, the bible never said to love your neighbor above yourself it says to love your neighbor as yourself, if we pour too much of us into others that we forget to refuel ourselves we’ll faint in the end.

Xoxo Busayo