FREEDOM FROM ADDICTION I

Hello people trust you all are doing fine may we continue to be fine. In the first post in this series we considered addiction its causes and signs. Today we’ll be moving further onto steps to freedom. Addiction is something that builds overtime and unfortunately there is no “5 simple steps to freedom” on wiki how its going to take steps that are a little more inconvinencing and quite frustrating cause severally it could seem like the harder you try the less successful you are but never quit keep trying and gradually you’ll find yourself walking free. Remember its an habbit you’ve gotten used to breaking free is not easy yet its possible. So walk with me today as we go on the road to freedom.

STEP 1: ADMIT YOU ARE ADDICTED

If you read my last post in this series, I wrte a few of the signs of addiction, if you’ve recognized any pf these in you then you are most likely an addict to whatever it is you simply say you like. Now it’s the hardest thing to do tho… admitting is one very difficult thing to do, you know why it so? Because after you’ve admitted to be having a problem you’d need to find a solution to help yourself and finding a solution most times involves a lot of changes and sacrifices which maybe painful to us. So somehow its better to live in denial. However we need understand that denial does not remove the fact that the problem is there it only delays the time it would be opened. Problem is delay is not always safe as most time it would end up hitting one in the face in an embarrassing manner at that.

STEP 2: TELL SOMEBODY

After admitting the fact that you are addicted you need to tell somebody, now not just anybody, but somebody you can trust and confide in. Now this person doesn’t have to be your best friend of close friend in fact I’ve discovered that its more convenient opening up to someone who is not too close to you, the reason being your friends have known you too well and possibly didn’t know about your secret addiction and so most times when they are told tend to react wrongly. Its really not their fault most times it’s the shock of knowing. The essence of telling somebody is because “addictions thrive with secrecy”. And most times when we tell others it sorta keeps us in check… the idea that someone else knows does restrains us occasionally.

STEP 3: GET AN ACOUNTABILITY PARTNER

“What is accountability?” I hear someone ask, simply put accountability is making your weakness somebody else’s business. An accountability partner is that one person you can talk to when you are tempted or even when you’ve fallen. This is another difficult part on the step to freedom it involves you murdering your pride it entails you humbling yourself to the point of listening to someone else as regards your “personal issues”, it involves submission, an accountability partner is so many things to you, its one who keeps you in check, who prays for you, and who has an authority to call you back to order. Let me add here that once in a while they could step on your toes not because they intend to but out of love I call that THE WOUND OF LOVE it might not look so at first but you’ll realize much later it was all for the better.

STEP 4: BURN BRIDGES

A bridge is something that provides a link, connection or a means coming together. From this definition a bridge is not necessarily what one is addicted to, it involves the supply or rather the trigger points of the addiction while a bar is not the addiction the addiction is “alcohol” the bar is the bridge that connects the addict with alcohol, while a strip club is not the addiction sex is the addiction a strip club or prostitute zone is the bridge that connects  one to the addiction, once in a while the people one relates with could be the bridges that fuel addiction therefore to break free, once in a while we would need to change our friends to break free. Burning bridges involves destroying those things that lead us into temptation to fall.

I’ll be bringing a few more steps tomorrow, trust you’ll be around long enough with us. In the meantime my prayers are with you, if you want to leave a prayer point, drop it at busayokehinde81@gmail.com.

Xoxo Busayo