WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?

Hello people trust the new year has been beautiful, I know it’s a part of some of your new year resolution to stop being single this year. Great resolution darling the lord sees your struggle and I pray he’ll help you. This is a question I get too often and I’ve tried to answer severally and it always comes down to the fact that I’m of age so I can date, its taken me close to a week to answer this question I hope I’ve answered well and maybe inspired you to join my team.

From the old women at the church, to best friends, long lost friends, admirers, haters, everybody, no matter how white washed the question might be, no matter how polite or jokingly, no matter how well put or sugar coated it might be, it’s the same question everywhere and every time, are you single? And a negative answer brings question two. Why are you still single?

      Really, I don’t who can relate to this, one stalker on FB would be like …….so hw’s bf?... or the women at church be like when are we seeing our brother? Or your friends be like what of the bobo and stuff like that, really its not abnormal having people ask this questions I mean once you’re in higher institution you’re supposed to like be in a relationship and stuff, and really these questions can leave you feeling like something is wrong with you or somehow you’ll always be single and it scares you. I mean I get that feeling sometimes, the other day a friend of mine had some problems with her partner and sent me a message to seek my counsel, and I began to wonder myself I talk to a lot of people about their relationships and even help some build theirs then why am I still single? Maybe I don’t go out enough, or I don’t go to the right places, or I don’t dress well enough, or somehow I’m defective and so no one can come close to me, no guys has asked me out, or no one can live with my randomness or on the spiritual side maybe there is a spirit that stops guys from coming close to me :D, cut that crap it’s all lies  and lies and lies, No I’m not defective, I do go out, I go to the right places, I dress properly, guys do ask me out, deres no spirit chasing me and yes I’m pretty.

well said

   Now to be truthful, friends, readers, colleagues, and those reading this probably because you’re bored and I’m quite an interesting person, or you saw the link and decided to peep in, the answer to this question is, I am not single because I have to or because I want to, I’m single because I have not seen a reason to stop being single, I’m single because for everything I do there has to be a purpose and an intention and If I would stop being single it has to be for and with the right purpose and intention and not because I’m bored and dating is a fun activity or because I need somebody to subscribe for my bis monthly or because he is close to my age and I’ve come of age to date, I’m single because I was created by the creator of love who knows my dreams, hope and my future, so I’ll spend my time pleasing him while I’m waiting, waiting for the true forever kind of love he’ll send to me himself, I’m single because I’m single because I’ve not developed properly and God can’t give me to any wise person in my state(automatically the only other option is a fool which I totally reject), I’m single because I don’t want to choose for myself again( every choice I’ve made have always been foolish anyway), this time I want Gods choice and until he pick for me I’m content waiting, I’m single because I’m not going to be having flings anymore, I’m single because true love is worth waiting for and until true love comes I’m content waiting. I hope you would to give waiting a chance. Plus to the single maybe I reasons I one of the reasons why you are also single :D.

Ps : you should totally check out Jenette ikz “I will wait for you” on  YouTube and Jamie Grace video “boys boys boys” they are a part of my inspiration for this post.

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GRACE_STREET: HAPPY NEW YEAR

GRACE_STREET: HAPPY NEW YEAR: Today i have nothing to say to you my dear readers other than to welcome you into the year 2014 and thank you for your love and support in ...

GRACE_STREET: MUSIC

GRACE_STREET: MUSIC:      Sometime ago I wrote a note on face book about the right hooks and all, and it was well received so I was sure that was going to be...

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Today i have nothing to say to you my dear readers other than to welcome you into the year 2014 and thank you for your love and support in 2013, i pray for you all that you and your families would overflow with the blessings of the king. God bless you all. HAPPY NEW YEAR.

MUSIC

     Sometime ago I wrote a note on face book about the right hooks and all, and it was well received so I was sure that was going to be the last I was going to write as regards music, but today I feel it in my spirit to share this with you my dear readers hope you are blessed.

     I know a lot of Christians or just people who love God yet on their music players, phones and other devices they have both a combination of gospel and secular music. I know what you are thinking now  “not all secular music is bad and talk about sex are you now saying we should not listen to even the one that do not depict sex?”  My answer to that is and would always be NO big fat NO. we have to realize that we are a product of what we listen to. Whatever we sing or listen to should glorify God, if it doesn’t glorify the true God it glorifies the devil or any counterfeit god of ours.

  Have you ever listened to a song, I mean audio music, and shortly afterwards a video is made, its not uncommon to hear people say the video does not go well with the song or this is not the right video e.t.c and I wonder never has a video been released for this song how do you know this is not how the video is meant to be. The answer is simple we are visual beings, and every word we hear is transformed into pictures in our mind, so when we listen to music the lyrics create pictures in our minds and as the beats and lyrics come together our minds create videos for the song, that is why most times when the videos are released we are not satisfied because it does not co-relate to our minds video. For this reason we ought to watch what we listen to, because after a while our minds begin to tilt towards what constantly fills it so if secular music fills it gradually we begin acting, living and being like the music we listen to.

   Furthermore I personally believe that when you sing or dance to music they should be two major purposes, to praise and to uplift one what do I mean? When I sing a song it should be to praise God this has to do with being thankful, making a request, etcetera. Whereas by up lifting I mean to encourage or give us hope when we are cast down, depressed or discouraged and not for entertainment only, if music only entertains you only I wonder the purpose, entertainment births happiness which is just for that period, while real music should not just entertain or birth happiness but joy which does not depend on the time being but stays in all circumstances. Furthermore when music is to praise it gives power, we need to realize that the power of our gods towards us is dependent on the amount of praise we give to them meaning every time we sing songs that glorifies our counterfeit gods we give them power.

     Finally the spirit behind most songs we listen to is unknown and that’s is like the most important, as the spiritual controls the physical, a lot of secular music even though they don’t promote sex choke, and even kills the spirit of God in us, gradually, slowly the spirit of God would die in us as we keep up our ungodly music, because the spirit we feed is the one that would live and two spirits can’t work in us, and the spirit of God is really delicate, it can’t operate next to another spirit, our God is a jealous God he can’t be spirit 2, he has to be the one and only operational spirit in our lives.

   However my dear readers and friends these are just my thoughts, I really need to know your thoughts on this issue. Feel free to post your comments and question on any point of mine that is not clear to you. Have an amazing day. I love you all and I’m praying we all cross over beautifully into 2014. See you there.

xoxo Busayo

I’M SORRY: THE END OF THE WAR

                                          

Happy Sunday my dear amazing readers I’m totally sorry I’ve not been posting stuff like I ought to I really don’t have an excuse but I trust my post for today would bless your life.

     Its that time of the month, it’s actually one of my hardest moment every month, I feel heavy, fat, sick, irritable not to even talk of the pimples on my face, I’m really hungry but the sigh and smell of food totally nauseates me, I want everybody around me, and I don’t want anybody around me at the same time, the sights and sound of people telling me sorry even doubles my pain, I want to have my bath but I don’t want water to touch my body and no I’m not crazy it’s just that it’s my time of the month, I don’t have control over my temper or emotions doctors refer to it as PMS but for me it’s simply “my time in the month” my time of frustrations, anger and plenty of conflicting emotions. It was Tola’s birthday and I’d promised to go out with her but in my condition I couldn’t make it again so I had to text her to inform her, much to my surprise few minutes after I sent the text Tola was in my room going all mummy on me, taking care of me and putting my space in order she even took the pains of going out to get food for me, and even boiled water for me to have my bath, then it happened. As she was pouring the water from the kettle a little spilled on the floor I didn’t say anything  then however after I had my bath and came into the room I still met the water on the floor I got really irritated and started nagging at her about how scruffy, childish and lazy she was, how she couldn’t even keep a place together just after I finished yelling at her I realized what I had done I HAD JUST PMS’D ON A FRIEND WHO HAD ABANDONED HER BIRTHDAY OUTING TO STAY WITH ME but that was just a little thing as compared with the hurt I saw on her face, it was unlike anything I had ever seen. In that moment I know I should have said I was sorry but my pride kept me quiet or rather I felt we were friends we were going to sort out ourselves somehow. She stayed with me for the rest of the day it was worse than I expected I’d talk to her and she’ll answer like nothing happened so I thought it was over and at night before she left I gave her the present I made for her-a beautiful handmade wire work neck piece she was so thankful and left and we continued our friendship normally and to me that was the end of it all. It was until one morning two weeks after the incidence I went to her room to call her, I had a bottle of water in my hand, I got there and she was not ready so I sat to wait for her, while I waited I got thirsty so I opened my bottle of water to drink as I was drinking it her roommate came in a hurry to pick something and as she was walking through she hit me and a little water spilled on the floor and surprisingly Tola did make a comment she was like if water pours on my floor she’s childish and unorganized but when I the most organized madam pours it on her floor it’s an accident. And for the first time I realized that she hadn’t forgotten and she was still upset and I never said sorry to her.

      I know some of you my dear readers can relate to this, it’s not only when you are PMSing, at least boys don’t have PMS but they do it we value our alter ego than the people in our lives, for me I didn’t realize how much closure the simple word sorry can bring, there are a lot of times I’ve had disagreements with people and just because I couldn’t say sorry malice erupted. Over time I hated saying sorry first to any one because I felt it would look like I loved the person so much and could not imagine offending them, other times I felt it would mean admitting I’m wrong even though sometimes I’m not wrong.

and she cant even say sorry

However the truth is saying sorry doesn’t reduce you in any way, it only shows you’re strong, strong enough to take the first step, strong enough to control your ego and apologize and not allow your ego to stop you from making amends, it means you’re strong enough you’ve overcome pride enough to come down and apologize, and like I always tell my friends when they have issues with people, apologizing always makes you the better person.

   I realized something every time we offend someone we know weather of not their expressions say it however we have two options; first is to apologize immediately or the second is to pretend it didn’t happen and continue things normally. We need to understand that none of the two options change what has happened, the first is to bring closure to the issue i.e. end the issue, while the second is tantamount to either postponing the closure or a lifelong malice. So what the point? The first it the voice of humility (the voice of truth) the second is that of pride (the voice that led Satan into hell) so like Joshua said in the bible I say in my own words, choose today what you’ll do about issues you’ve left like that. Have an amazing Sunday.

PS: I just had to add this quick note, I finished this write up early hours but for some reasons I could not publish it before I went to church and just as I got to church during Sunday school the topic was anger, and most of the issues raised related to this article, plus I realized that my topic was the right one. I was told that one of the world wars was as a result of someone’s refusal to say sorry smh….it’s all good just thought y’all should know.

Xoxo Busayo

COUNTERFEIT GODS

COUNTERFEIT GODS

Merry Christmas all its been a while I wrote on here  and really I’ve missed writing its just a lot of other things came up that took my attention however it’s good to be back and as the year draws to an end I think its about time to take stock an really know whether or not we really are serving God and by God I mean the real BIG G hope you are blessed by this piece.

and no by bowing to a god this is not what i mean

    What’s on your throne? What do you actually bow down to? Yea when I say bow down I don’t mean in actual sense, the question is what are u chasing so u don’t feel alone? A lot of us can’t honestly answer that question because really the things we chase we can’t just refer to them as our God, for instance how do we expect an alcoholic to refer to alcohol as his God or a drug addict to refer to drugs as his God, the counterfeit Gods are just things or people we can’t really acknowledge as our Gods, for some of us our partners are our Gods we can give up anything just to spend some time with them when I say anything I really mean anything, for others it’s our possessions and that’s actually like the worse it really beats my imagination how we buy stuff with our own money and then the stuff that supposed to serve us suddenly becomes our god, it’s not uncommon to hear people rant about their car and how much it cost and be treating their car like it’s human and several examples I could give, and no not only those who worship in shrines worship counterfeit gods, by the way who even goes into shrines these days that’s way too stressful joor. A God is what/who u give ultimate worth and what/who if taken will bring ultimate sadness. A God is who or whatever is supreme in your life.

THE WHOLE CAR ISH

  The bible in tells us that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly more than we can ask or think according to the power that works in us… I don’t know what else you all have picked from that scripture but here is what it tells  me, this elaboration on the verse was done by a friend here is what he said from the last phrase in that verse we can understand that there is power locked up in us and as it is we are stores of power, and every time we bow we release power to our Gods, that why after worshiping a person or a thing for while we eventually trade totally our power to our lords and soon our lives actually begin to depend on those things/people. Its Christmas today while we are celebrating some are actually busy celebrating their own Gods without even knowing.

   How do you know what has become your God? It’s a simple thing search yourselves whatever you own that you can’t give up if we’ll be real actually owns you and that your God.