I recently met this twenty one years old lady, really
pretty, sweet, God loving and if you’ll ask me very mature, and we got talking
and she told me she’d never been in a relationship and I wondered why and she
helped me understand that it wasn’t about the age or anything but the concept
of being in a relationship required maturity and more than just age. Age is
just a number and should never be your basis for entering a relationship. Oh I
remember in primary school how we’d say we’d be married by the time we’re
twenty one and by twenty two we’ll start having, I guess we didn’t realize that
twenty one wasn’t really far away. But it was a dream of an immature mind why
don’t we drop it now we’re older, your tall fair rich and handsome list why
don’t you drop it and look out for qualities other than the whole childish
list, not necessarily settling for less but growing to the point of letting
Jesus choose for you.
When I ask ready or
not I mean are you emotionally ready? Relationship is not for people who do not
have control over their emotions, its not for boys and girls its for ladies and
gentlemen, its not for people whose emotions are a mess who don’t even
understand themselves I mean you don’t even understand you and you’re trying to
bring someone else into your life seriously? Don’t you think that’s a little
complicated. We need to build ourselves emotionally; you need to learn how to
express how you really feel.
Are you financially
ready? Wait guys before you punch me in the face, we need to understand that
embracing someone else would cost you something, its not about the preson being
demanding its just supposed to, for instance you both cant have lunch and
she’ll pay her own bills except if she offers to, and even if she offers to
insist. You might not know but a few things you’d do would determine how far
the relationship would go no one can cope with a guy who is stingy.
Are you spiritually ready? Are you strong enough spiritually
to embrace someone else, can you even ray for yourself before you decide to add
someone else to your life? Think about all of thiese before you jump into a
relationship.
Xoxo Busayo
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